More than four in five men (80.7%) talk in ways that promote anxiety about their body image by referring to perceived flaws and imperfections, compared with 75% of women. Similarly, 38% of men would sacrifice at least a year of their life in exchange for a perfect body – again, a higher proportion than women.
“These findings tell us that men are concerned about body image, just like women. We knew that ‘body talk’ affected women and young people and now we know that it affects men too,” said Dr Phillippa Diedrichs, from the centre of appearance research at the University of the West of England. She conducted the study, of 394 British men, which was commissioned by Central YMCA and the Succeed Foundation, an eating disorders charity.
The survey revealed that men have high levels of anxiety about their bodies and that some resort to compulsive exercise, strict diets, laxatives or making themselves sick in an attempt to lose weight or achieve a more toned physique.
• 80.7% talked about their own or others’ appearance in ways that draw attention to weight, lack of hair or slim frame.
• 30% have heard someone refer to their “beer belly”, 19% have been described as “chubby” and 19% have overheard talk about their “man boobs (moobs)”.
• 23% said concerns about their appearance had deterred them from going to the gym.
• 63% thought their arms or chests were not muscular enough.
• 29% thought about their appearance at least five times a day.
• 18% were on a high-protein diet to increase muscle mass, and 16% on a calorie-controlled diet to slim down.
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This, ladies and gentlemen, is what you get when you stand up to a man who beats his young girlfriend in public. Not the black eye, not the broken nose, but the sense of being a fucking great human being.
I’m sorry but I don’t think this story is true.
I’d like to believe it’s true! Trust me! I’d love a nice feel good story to make me feel good about the human race, but sadly, there are way too many things wrong with this story.
- Either you were headbutted by a man with the smallest head in the world, or a Legoman. Your “black eye” should be swollen, your eyelids should be somewhat closed and your temple on the side of your head should be swollen too. A black eye is a serious thing, man. Your body doesn’t let that slide. I know people who’ve hit their eye and within an afternoon it’s ballooned up.
The purple around your eye is the most suspicious part. Blood vessels don’t really adhere to one singular colour. There are yellows, reds, violets, and finally, purples. Your black eye looks like a very bad make up job.
- You claim that the police got DNA from the headbutt to your nose. I’m not well versed in the practise of forensics, and I bet not a lot of people on Tumblr are, but a few things immediately stand out from your story:
- Your nose (and in extension, your face) goes through a lot of contaminates every day. Your face is exposed to the elements. Now, say you did have DNA on your face, who’s to say that wouldn’t be rubbed off by the rain? Or the wind? Or when you take off your clothes? How much DNA can you REALLY swab from a headbutt? Don’t you wear make up? Wouldn’t that contaminate it?
- Why are the police getting a DNA sample if there was a witness right there? Surely a witness is enough to convict this guy? DNA samples are also really expensive, and take a lot of time! Why would they use on you when there are rape cases, murder cases, etc.
- If you got hit in the nose, and this is my main point, wouldn’t you touch where you’d been hit, and therefore rub the DNA away? I don’t know about you but if I got hit, I would touch where I got hit to protect it. It’s a natural instinct.
- Looking at your previous photos, the most jarring thing occurs.
The top photo is taken merely FIVE DAYS after your broken nose post. Now, I’m pretty sure you’re not Wolverine, and you can’t heal a broken nose within five days.
As you can see, I’ve placed the broken nose picture over a recent one, and there is honestly no difference in your nose.
For something so prominent, it looks exactly the same. Where are the bandages? Where are the plasters? You’ve apparently broken your nose! Where’s the medical attention?
- I don’t like the look of your court letter.
Why is such a serious document scrunched up so much? That’s a legal document that you need to keep hold of in your records, why does it look like you’ve ran it through your pocket a hundred and fifty times?
There’s also no official seal, and no signature on the document, which means…
Anyone could’ve written this.
Fire up Microsoft Word, select Helvetica, and off we go…
I understand you live in Weston Super Mare, and I know it’s a rough area, but still…
You’ve linked newspaper articles that are related to you.
But, why are the police appealing for witnesses? If they have his DNA, if the woman in question was right there, if you were right there, they have enough to convict him. That’s two witnesses and straight up DNA evidence, right?
Then again, the newspapers you’re in aren’t exactly the BBC. You can submit stories to them with little to no evidence.
- After talking to my medical student friend, she has the following to say on your “injury”. Please bear in mind that she’s going to become a doctor one day and has far more training that you and I.
Me: Is that a real black eye?
Her: No, not at all! It would be swollen. Not as even in colour, they start out red. Her nose is def not broken, she’d probably have two black eyes if it was. Bruises start red because it’s blood pooling, then as the iron in the blood changes it turn bluish black, then green, then yellow and not all at the same time - you get varying stages of colour. She wouldn’t even be able to open her eyes if someone headbutted her and broke her nose.
So, there we go. Someone who will one day look after us all, and reads medical books has deemed this a fake injury, nice one.
- But let’s move on from what is, or what isn’t and onto the post itself.
Look, I get it. You’re a feminist, you want to fight for woman’s rights, you want to take down us men because we rule the world or whatever, but your post reeks of “Women are weak, I just stood up for a woman! I’m a woman! I fight! Men shouldn’t hit women! I sacrificed my body to prove a point!”
Here’s a much better message you could send to the world:
“How about no one hits anyone?”
It’s all well and good saying women shouldn’t hit men, but if Tumblr has taught me anything it’s that gender is entirely fluid and therefore the bodies we find ourselves in may not be the ones that we wanted, and as a consequence, a woman hitting a man may actually be a woman identifying as a man hitting a man and now we’re onto a huge debate onto who is what in what body doing what with who, but let me focus:
This story is false. The injury isn’t real. I’m highly doubtful of the events in question, and even if they did occur, screwing up your court letter and lying about what the police can do is not the way to make a name for yourself.
Surely preaching equality through, “Can we all just not hit each other?” Rather than, “Men are pigs and they hit women!” would be a better way to go, but then again, you did put make up on your face and fabricate a whole story…
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This commentary is directed to “Anonymous” that provided PoJ with such a clever, witty, and well thought out “ask”.
It fills my heart with joy that they are still teaching writing skills, sarcasm, and maintaining anonymity in today’s schools of higher learning. I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that the OP is female (gender or biological sex), on the young side, and attending university. I feel safe making these assumptions because:
- In my experience, men are generally laughed out of any “women’s history” university class or “taken under the wing” of some self-sacrificing, well-meaning feminist that is only too happy to help the “poor soul” out. You see, men can’t understand any history other than that of men.
- If the OP wasn’t on the youngish side, then one would hope that she’s read something outside of the restricted curriculum that her school of higher learning offers.
- There are very few, to my knowledge, schools below the level of college or university that teach “women’s history”. Quite simply there isn’t time with all the other things that are “required” of HS graduates.
That said …. to the OP: Is your class focused on the triumphs, trials, struggles, accomplishments, and contributions of women throughout the expanse of recorded history? Does it include the stories of women living 2500 BCE? Does it include scholarly review of the status of women in societies pre-dating that time period?
No? You say that it concentrates on the plight of women over the past 150 years? Well then …. you are not studying “Women’s History” then; you are “studying” a history of the “Women’s Rights Movement”. They are not, in any way, the same thing at all.
Have you learned about Merit-Ptah—considered to be the first recognized female medical practitioner? She last breathed oxygen in 2700 BCE. How about Madame Marie Sklodowska-Curie—the first woman to win a Nobel Prize (in two fields)? Do any of the Queens of various countries, past and current, ring any bells? Elizabeth I, Mary Queen of Scotland and the Irish Isles, Queen Mary of England? Are you familiar with any of the female warriors, soldiers, healers, writers, artists, and other profession that literally fill up shelf after shelf in any modestly appointed library?
Oh …. the Egyptians don’t count? Oh …. yes …. those darn Queens … they’re Royalty, therefore their contributions don’t matter. Well … Mme Curie … maybe.
How about Indira Ghandi (1917 - 1984) who was, unless everything I’ve learned was incorrect, the Prime Minister of India for 12 years (66-77)? Mother Theresa? Joan d’Arc? Florence Nightingale? What? Oh you say these women don’t matter ….they did good works …. but …?
Aaaahhhh …. now I see. You’re looking for examples of women throughout history, handed to you on a silver platter, that are known for “being women” secondary to any work that they’ve done. You’d be happy with a murderer perhaps? Well there’s Daria Nikolaevna Saltykova, Isabella I of Castile and Leon, Belle Gunness. Oh …. that’s too extreme …. sorry.
What you want is a “normal” woman who has somehow contributed to the history of humanity … not too good, certainly not bad, preferably middle of the road.
You have heard the aphorism that says in various forms, “History is written by the victors.”? Perhaps the problem is that your “women’s history” class is just a tad too selective in the content that it covers. You might want to discuss that with the Dean of that department; perhaps even take it all the way to administration.
It would be horrible spending all that good money on a poor quality education. Alternately, you could always pick up a BOOK and read about the history of women on your own.
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And once again, we’re having to ask “What about men?” Many think it’s funny that people ask this question, as if the answer is always going to be some silly way of including men where they don’t belong, but it’s often used as a silencing tactic. Ironically it’s all from a group that claims to want equality, but very few of them really do.
The same research which is used to say that a woman is severely assaulted by her husband/boyfriend every 15 second in this country, also indicated that a man is severely assaulted by his wife/girlfriend every 14.6 seconds.
While men are less likely to report violence, which distorts crime data, virtually all randomized sociological surveys show women initiate domestic violence as often as men and use weapons more than men, that men suffer one-third of injuries, and that self-defense explains only a small portion of domestic violence by either sex.
And despite all of this, we still have people believing that men are more violent than women. We still have people jumping to protect abused women, while ignoring female on male violence, cheering for abusive women, or laughing at abused men, and this can mostly be attributed to feminist causes only representing the side of the issue that they care about, not the full picture. The Federal Government, under feminist pressure, still pays grants to police departments in proportion to the number of men jailed under VAWA legislation, leading to an incentive for police to expand the defintion of ‘domestic violence’ to absurd extremes, and when a man who calls the police to report domestic violence, he is three times more likely to be arrested than the woman who is abusing him, leaving any possible children between them alone with the violent parent. Where’s the child advocacy in that?
Anybody that participates in this “awareness” week is not raising awareness of domestic violence, but once again reinforcing the “women are weak and innocent, men are strong and violent” stereotype by ignoring that domestic violence goes both ways and is more often perpetuated by women than men. All this bullshit says is that men aren’t the ones that need to learn how to walk in someone else’s shoes. Really, how goddamn hard is it for feminists to take the focus off of women, walk and mile in men’s shoes, and look at the bigger picture here?